The Unconventional Guide to Better Boundaries
Joe Boyle
One of the common myths about boundaries that I've confronted in my work with clients is that boundaries pertain to other people. Often, I have encountered people misinterpreting boundaries to essentially mean rules for other people's behavior. "You asked an uncomfortable question, so I'm going to shut down the conversation and cite a boundary as the reason," or "I blocked my former friend on text and social media because they kept making insensitive remarks." Maybe you’ve heard people say similar things in your own life. And to be clear, shutting down a conversation, or blocking or ghosting someone, is within your rights as a human being. But let's be clear: this isn't boundary setting. It’s withdrawal.
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