Appreciating Our Sensitivity
Ivy Griffin
Being highly sensitive definitely has its ups and downs. In a culture that often devalues vulnerability, we can get the message that sensitivity is undesirable or “weak” and we should try our best to suppress it. But as I always say, there are two sides to everything. Let’s look at the other side of the coin and see if it can help us to appreciate our sensitivity.
Rich and fulfilling experiences – Highly sensitive people may experience a heightened version of life. While this can be overwhelming, it can also enhance experiences that others might find dull or uninteresting. I think of the times I’ve deeply enjoyed smelling different items like baked goods, candles, or lotions. I also think of the times I’ve been completely transported by a piece of music. HSPs are more likely to have these types of experiences which can increase our enjoyment of life.
Tuned in to what matters – Highly sensitive types may feel more connected to that which is most important to them. Because our emotions may run very close to the surface, we can more easily access how we truly feel about things. When we develop an honest dialogue with ourselves, this can help us to recognize and prioritize what’s most important to us which, in turn, leads to a more fulfilling life.
A necessity in a harsh world – Whenever I hear criticism of sensitivity, tears, or vulnerability, I consider the source. We live in a highly polarized, violent, and oftentimes callous world in which many people are struggling. Being called “too sensitive” is a little questionable when so many people are fighting with and hating each other. Honestly, I think the world could use A LOT MORE sensitivity.
As you can see, there’s a lot more to being highly sensitive than being overwhelmed all the time. Because the world may not always recognize or appreciate all the gifts of sensitivity, it’s important we take notice and enjoy all it has to offer. If you struggle to appreciate your sensitivity or want to learn more about self-acceptance and compassion, don’t hesitate to reach out. The relationship we have with ourselves is the longest relationship we’ll ever have, why not make it a good one?
Best,
Ileana Arganda-Stevens, LMFT# 129032
Therapist and Program Manager
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